January 25 2016

Chant with Me: “Break-Through! Break-Through! Break-Through!”

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Let’s go for it again. Chant with Me: “Break-Through! Break-Through! Break-Through!”

January is National Mentoring Month. I think this is a month to celebrate. The reason? Mentorship is one of the greatest personal development assets than can happen to another person.

When I decided to was going to write a novel and get that rockin’ book published, I have to be honest… I needed help.

What did I do? Mentorship!

Yes, I hired a Dream Coach to help me figure out exactly how to reach my goal.

Before I decided to hike the Camino de Santiago in Spain, I have to be honest… I needed help.

What did I do? Mentorship!

Yes, I hired a Dream Coach to help me figure out exactly how to live my dream.

There was no way I could do it on my own.  Just as I’ve helped dozens of people through mentorship, I knew in these times that I needed a mentor of my own.  So I hired a Dream Coach who I felt would help me get from where I was to where I wanted to be.  The result?  After short 8 weeks, I was in Spain, hiking the Camino de Santiago.  Sometimes, all we need is a little partnership.

The same thing happened with finding love, becoming a leader, public speaking and a whole host of skills I’ve developed over my lifetime of years.

This is a great month because…. This week I can offer the same experience for you.

Remembering that feeling I had when needing a partner, getting one and standing on the other side of the finish line of my goal – I simply must honor National Mentoring Month.

For the next week, the final week of January, I am offering break-through sessions for $20.  It’s just a limited time and if you need a helping hand in getting from where you are to where you want to be in 2016 – this is definitely the place to start.

Click Add to Cart.  Perhaps you’d like to set yourself up to mentor others or you know someone who really, really, really needs a partner that will help them get this done. Whether it would be divine to share some of your hard-earned lessons with others who could really benefit from your knowledge or you know someone who needs to pick themselves up off the pavement, I’m here.

Here’s what I know for sure…

Sometimes life is awesome and sometimes life breaks your heart.

The fact you are alive is no accident.  You are here to live a story you are proud to represent.  Life casts obstacles in your direction and those are opportunities for growth.

Sometimes, a helping hand is all you need, an insightful eye, a friendly perspective.  You are not alone.  This is what I’m here for.

I can offer you or someone you love, a 30-minute Break-Through Session by Clicking Here: Add to Cart

Chant with Me: “Break-Through! Break-Through! Break-Through!”

 

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January 18 2016

3 Tips to Overcome Codependency

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The month of January is Codependecy Awareness Month.

Have you ever known anyone who enabled the addiction, mental health, irresponsibility, behavior or underachievement of another?

While I was in law enforcement, I saw this a lot. Perhaps the most difficult time I witnessed this behavior was in regard to a sex offender caseload. For the life of me, I never understood the mindset of women who did not protect their children from perpetrators.  I remember receiving letters on more than one occasion, wherein they chastised me for splitting family members apart. I remember thinking – ‘Shouldn’t you be thanking me for protecting your child?’

Then it dawned on me and I solved the riddle. These mothers loved their kids, but they had a fear of rejection. What if they could overcome this internal dilemma? I researched ways to help and worked with the families to ensure a better environment for everyone involved.

In honor of Codependecy Awareness Month, I wanted to provide 3 Tips to overcome destructive behaviors in relationships.

1. Education. Read and grow knowledgeable on the subject matter.

2. Learn to say, “No.” Practice utilizing healthy boundaries when asked to do things that are not healthiest for you.

3. Work with a Therapist or Coach.  This could involve working with groups or an individual.  When I work with clients in this area, the most important thing I try to get across is this:  Don’t let your fear of rejection stop you from achieving loving, healthy, wonderful relationships in each area of life.

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January 13 2016

Spreading Love Where Love is Due

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If an animal in your life brings you joy, thank them.

There are several dogs in my life who bring happiness to everyone they meet. I spent time with each of them individually this weekend to thank them for their loving spirit.

I am blessed to know them.

What animals are you blessed to know? Take the time to thank them this week. Their light in the world makes our existence a better experience.

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January 5 2016

The Meditation Journal

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Each morning, I take a quiet ten minutes facing the back yard. Perhaps you will join me sometime. Then I recall what reflections came my way and I write in a Meditation Journal. Some of the ideas are brilliant. Some can use a little work. Either way, headed full-board into 2016 with my goals and energy soaring, it centers me to spend those few quiet moments.

Give yourself the same gift and let me know what reflections turn up for you.

Thank you and congrats to the several clients who now have their 2016 Playbook.  2016 will be a great year.  Now you have proof and also the strategies and visions to take you all the way to the finish line.

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January 1 2016

The Offer

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2016 is here!  The energy of a new year is typically one of excitement and optimism.  Who knows what the upcoming year will hold.  We have good years and we have challenging years. That being said, I do believe in setting the stage for success, expecting and experiencing a great year during 2016.

2015 was an amazing year for me.  Not only, did I experience everything I wanted to this year – I experienced so much more.  The process I use helped me backpack in India in 2008, Italy in 2009, and complete the Camino de Santiago in 2014.  This year, my best year by far – blessed me in so many ways.

– Wrote and published my fifth book

– Found an incredible partner in life

– Spent a week in Tahiti

– Experienced the most, meaningful, beautiful wedding I could have imagined for under $5,000

– Spent more time exploring Spain…

Dozens of other great things happened – but this post really isn’t about me – it’s about you.

 

Are you ready for a wonderful and inspired new year? To begin 2016, I have 4 questions for you:

(1) Looking back at 2015, was it a good year? Yes or No.

(2) What made it a good year?

(3) What didn’t you accomplish in 2015 that you’d hoped to experience?

Most importantly…

(4) What does your perfect 2016 look like?

We have a great opportunity this year.  If you aren’t happy with last year or if you don’t know where to go or what to do with this year, this post is for you.  During the month of January, 2016, I will help you set up your 2016 Playbook. This will consist of a single session.  This is also a great opportunity if you have any questions you’d like answered.  

The best news?  This one time session is only $20.

Let’s get you on the right foot, shall we? Buy Now

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December 29 2015

The Media Fast

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Dear Faithful Readers:

It is time to take a brief media fast during the finale of the holidays here.  Stay tuned for 2016, during which new ground is destined to be broken.  In the mean time, stay safe, love your people and may you cheers the end of 2015 with a grateful heart, open to the prospects of an inspired 2016.

Affectionately,

Rock Star Jessi

 

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December 9 2015

Reports on Your 10 Intentions for 2015 and Mine

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Every year, I write a list of ten things I want to experience during the upcoming year. Why? When I write them down, I almost always experience them. Perhaps you do to.

What items did you have on your 2015 list? How many did you accomplish?

In reviewing my list of ten things, my results weren’t bad. I’ll share them with you. This past year, my list included the following items:

1. Serve
2. Finish Riding the Camino Dragon
3. Publish Riding the Camino Dragon
4. Fall in Love
5. Travel somewhere I have never been
6. Read 30 books
7. Practice yoga
8. Continue to enjoy my awesome family
9. Spend more time in prayer and meditation
10. Write another book

This year was some kind of awesome. Not only did I meet these hopes, dreams and goals but I exceeded them in every category.

1. Service is an important part of my life. I believe we are all here to achieve our full potential. As a result, I lead by example and try to reach mine. I take my knowledge and nuggets of wisdom and give them out. This is why I blog and engage in social media with quotes, questions, funny ideas and inspiration. I’ll never know it all, but am on a constant journey of discovery. That I do know – I’m happy to offer.

2. Finishing Riding the Camino Dragon was one of my favorite moments. Writing books requires many, many drafts. Although I continue to improve with I’ll never be perfect. That being said, being able to put the final touches on Riding the Camino Dragon felt wonderful.

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3. Publishing Riding the Camino Dragon led to one of the most successful book launches I’ve experienced. I am honored so many readers enjoyed my adventure. Even better, many were inspired to launch into more great journeys. This in turn, inspired me.

4. Falling in love seems like a funny thing to have on this list. Either way, it certainly happened. From the beginning of the year until the end of the year I not only fell in love but became engaged and married an incredible man.

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5. I did a fair amount of traveling this year, exploring Tahiti, more of Spain and a good deal of Montana (The state my husband was raised).

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6. It was my goal to read 30 books this year. It’s not quite the end of the year, but I have read a total of 37 book! I might actually hit 40 before the end of the year. That would really be something.

7. I developed a true love for hot yoga this past year. It is one of the toughest work outs I’ve ever participated in so I’m pretty proud of this.

8. Family is my favorite. We spent lots of time throughout the course of the wedding and holidays. It’s been a special year and with my awesome brother, Ryan and his wife being pregnant – I’m thrilled our family is expanding.

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9. I’ve put a morning ritual of prayer and reflection into practice. There is some room for improvement but overall, the new habits have been a good start.

10. I have written a couple new books. I’m still in the draft time (books take so many drafts, it’s comical, really). Coming this next year, you’ll meet a fantastic little character named Piglette. It is my long-term goal to experience 10 adventures with her (10 books – won’t that be fun?).

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Now it’s time to think up the ten items for 2016.

If you could experience anything, what are 10 things you would like to see happen in 2016?

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November 17 2015

Interview With The Woman Who Upped My Game

In your life there is someone who was always pulling for you. Sometimes they held your hand when you were scared. Other times they spoke fire into your fear so you could overcome the challenge you faced.  This someone always saw greatness within you, especially in times you didn’t see it yourself.  This person in my life is my mother, Judy Bakke.  Today, I get to return some of that love she gave so freely to me.  I’m incredibly proud of her most recent accomplishment, finishing and publishing her first children’s book: The Little Lab Who Wouldn’t Swim.  It is an adorable and heart-warming story and you can find it HERE.  Please take a few moments to enjoy her insightful interview below.
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1) What is your background?
My background is 25 years experience working as an educator, specializing in Elementary Montessori Education.  I hold a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Humanities with as emphasis in Children’s Art Education and a CA Teaching Credential in Elementary Education from Cal State Fresno.
2) What inspired you to write this book?
I also have a passion for photography and one of the subjects I enjoyed photographing was our puppy, Bodie, especially while she was growing up. I was always taking pictures of her every time we took her near the water.  I started calling her “The Little Lab That Wouldn’t Swim.”  The story just naturally unfolded.
3) Are there any tips you would like to give other authors?
Follow your passions and write from the heart.
4) What other work can we expect from you in the future?
My daughter, Jessi Lohman Payne, and I have started a children’s series about a young girl named Frannie May.  Talented Chazelle Owens, libarian and Montessorian, is our illustrator. These stories are meant to inspire, teach life lessons and are based on the principals of Montessori.; peace education, tolerance and acceptance of ourselves and others, and understanding and having a love of nature while being good stewards of the Earth.  The first Book is titled “Frannie May Makes a Day” and the second is titled “Frannie May Finds Her Way.”  We are currently researching our publishing options.
5) If anyone wanted to contact you about your book, how would they best be able to reach you?
I can best be contacted by email at: judy_bakke@yahoo.com
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November 5 2015

Travelogue Tuesday – One Final Fable From Spain

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Once upon a time in Spain, there was a man names Domingo.  He wanted to be a priest but the church refused him.  Domingo went off on his own to live as a hermit, off the beaten path.

It happened to be along the Camino de Santiago, where pilgrims had walked for years.  He watched pilgrims come and pilgrims go.  A large river was dangerous to cross and Domingo watched as pilgrim after pilgrim struggled to cross it.

Domingo felt sorrow for these pilgrims and went to work.  He built a bridge for the pilgrims.  He did not stop there.  In order to treat injured pilgrims, Domingo then opened a hospital.  This became known as the town of Santo Domingo.

Domingo dedicated his life to pilgrims. Among the many locations of the Camino de Santiago, the small town of Santo Domingo will continue to be among my favorites.

The church is the single place where live fowl are kept within the Cathedral.  They have kept this tradition since a miracle took place in the city.  Chickens on the Mayor’s dinner plate came to life after a wrongfully hung thief returned to life at the end of his noose.

If that isn’t a Miracle of Saint James – those miracles that take place along the Camino – I don’t know what it.

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October 30 2015

THE HALLOWEEN HAUNT ( A Halloween Story by Jessi Payne)

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“What will we do for Halloween this year?” Max asked. He drummed his fingers on Cliff’s desk and looked back and forth between his two friends.

“We could trick or treat,” Trudy suggested. A mischievous smile crept into the corners of her mouth.

“Nope – not happening,” Cliff said. “We are far too old. I mean, we are twenty for heaven sakes. Most people our age either go to parties, throw a party or hand out candy.”

“Let’s pick one,” Max said. “I like all those ideas.”

Trudy, Cliff and Max had been childhood friends. They had been a trio of misfits who grew up in the same neighborhood, attended the same schools and had shared similar interests.

Truth be told, they were so close as friends, they hadn’t reached out to anyone else. There were no parties to attend, as none had been invited. There were no friends to invite if they to host a Halloween Party either.

This left them one option.

“I am not going to sit here and pass out candy like I’m retired already,” Trudy said.

“There are other options,” Cliff said.

“Like what?” Max asked.

“We could watch scary movies and hand out candy,” Cliff said. He smiled, proud of his idea.

Trudy took one look at that smile and grunted before making an agonizing sound as though she were in pain.

Cliff’s smile faded as did Max’s enthusiasm.

Silence came over the group. They sat, staring at one another. Minutes ticked by.

“Okay, I’ve got it,” Trudy said, sitting up with a start.

Max sat up too with wide eyes.

“Let’s dress up – in character – and act as if those characters are our real lives for the night.”

“Okay,” Cliff said. “But who will we be?”

“We should be ghost,” Max said.

“You want to be the ghosts of our past relatives?” Cliff said. “We know those stories. I don’t know about you, but that seems kind of disrespectful to me.”

“I still like the ghost idea,” Max said.

“We could be ghosts and find other stories, Cliff,” Trudy said. It was a rare moment of sensitivity on her part.

“Really?” Cliff asked.

“Sure,” Trudy said. “Let’s go to the graveyard and find people to be. On Halloween night, we can gather as though those characters and interact as though we are ghosts in the graveyard.”

“This is going to be awesome,” Max said, rubbing his hands together.

* * *

Later that evening, the trio stood in their neighborhood historic graveyard combing grave sites, looking for interesting ghosts to represent.

“John Star,” Max said, being the first to find who he would be. “He was a doctor and died at age forty-six.”

“Sounds like a good fit,” Cliff said, rubbing his hand through his hair with nervousness. He looked and looked and none of the gravestones seemed to be people he would want to be.

“Here’s mine,” Trudy shouted. Both came over to see. “Mary Hudson. Beloved wife, mother and school teacher.”

“That seems rather boring for you,” Max said.

“Well of course it’s boring,” Trudy said. “It has to be the opposite of me.”

Max laughed and looked at Cliff, who hadn’t responded to the joke.

“Did you hear her?” Max said. “That was funny.”

“Yeah, I heard,” Cliff said. “I just don’t know why I can’t figure out who I want to be.”

Max looked over to the larger, more established grave monuments. They had small fences around them and appeared very prominent in comparison to most of the sites.

“Let’s go look over there,” Max said.

The three went over and by the fourth monument, Cliff had decided.

“Here we go,” he said. “William Brown, trusted banker and friend.” Trudy high-fived Cliff and they ran off, excited about Halloween night.

* * *

Halloween night came and the three friends revealed their handiwork and evaluated the costumes.

Trudy, the shortest by far, had long stringy hair.

“You look more like a witch than a school teacher,” Cliff said. Max clapped him on the back, letting out a long laugh.

“This was the side of Mary Hudson she never let out,” Trudy said, unmoved by the commentary. “That is what I am representing tonight.”

Cliff was tall and wore an elegant set of clothing, his face painted gray and sullen.

Max was on the husky side, and carried with him a large medical bag and a hat, both of which looked like a historical doctor.

Everyone was impressed and before long, they were ready to head out.

“Oh, I have one more thing,” Trudy said. “I have glow in the dark spray.”

The spray showered down onto the three of them.

* * *

Pulling up to the graveyard, all was still. The moon was out and full, allowing bits of light to shine through the trees surrounding the graveyard.

First they walked by Mary’s grave. Trudy laid on the ground beside the grave and pretended to be sleeping. She rolled over and stretched her arms, as though waking up. She sat up, looking around and stood up, as though checking things out after a long nap.

“I’m going next,” Cliff said.

They went to the banker’s grave and Cliff hopped the fence.

“I’m not going to step on anything,” he told them out of caution.

Trudy shrugged her shoulders.

“I’m not going to judge you,” she said.

“I might,” Max said, laughing under his breath.

Cliff hid behind the large monument and then jumped around the corner.

Trudy and Max jumped with comic relief and they all giggled quietly.

“It’s funny we are being so quiet,” Max said. “It’s not like anyone is here.”

“That’s true but it’s more fun this way,” Trudy said.

“You mean more creepy and eerie,” Cliff said, shaking his head and looking around.

“One more friend to rise,” Trudy said, leading the way to get Dr. Star.

Coming over a small hill, the three stopped up short. In the distance, there was a small lantern of light near Dr. Star’s grave. They hid behind a large headstone that represented many family members.

There was a hole and a head popped out, followed by a shovel and a masked man.

“Hey, that guy is robbing my grave,” Max whispered.

“Maybe we should get out of here,” Cliff said.

Max and Trudy looked at him.

“”I’ve got a better idea,” Trudy said.

* * *

The man was in the hole. Sweat poured down his brow. Although it was cool outside, this ground was hard and had been undisturbed for so long. As a doctor, this grave would probably have many valuables in it.

He couldn’t want to get his hands on those goodies.

The crunching of twigs was heard off to the man’s right. His head jerked up. He saw nothing but lamp light.

“Hello?” He called.

There was no answer.

He went back to digging. Must be the wind, he thought.

Crunching of twigs to his left.

Again, head jerking up.

“Hello?” He called, this time crawling out of the hole he was digging.

A rush of wind ran up from behind him and he turned just in time to see the Doctor, John Star, rushing at him. His glowing ghostly shape was headed toward him, medical bag in hand.

“What are you doing in my grave?” Dr. Star snapped and the man screamed, leaving his lamp and his shovel. He ran and ran as he heard, “Come friends, let’s get him!”

Daring a look over his shoulder, he saw a female ghost and a tall one come from the brush and give chase as well. He ran and ran. Jumping into his car, the man fumbled for his keys. The ghosts surrounded the car as he started it. They banged on the sides and the car squealed off.

The trio dodged off, back into the grave yard. If he looked behind them, the ghosts would be gone.

Returning to the grave site of Dr. John Star, they put out the lamp and used the moonlight to guide them.

They began filling the hole back in.

“Since it’s so close to the actual coffin,” Trudy began. “We should open it and see what’s inside.”

Max looked at her with a start.

“You are crazy,” Cliff said with disgust.

“Just kidding,” she cackled and they continued filling the hole.

It would be a calm night after that.

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