February 28, 2013
We are so hard on ourselves.
And with good reason.
Keeping a roof over your head and keeping it orderly and maintained. Laundry. Performing a full time job, and if you don’t have one, looking for a full time job. Exercise. Managing health issues. Drinking 8 glasses of water. Paying bills. Managing relationships. Finding true love and when you find it, holding on to it. Dealing with the past and making sense of our life. Discovering your purpose. Making your family proud. Consuming a nutritious diet and being able to afford to do so. Getting a good nights sleep. Staying up to date on current affairs. Setting yourself up for a certain future, when the only thing certain about the future, is how uncertain it is.
Life is difficult. Life is hard. There is so much that is required of us.
Not to mention loss…
Life seems to take turns breaking out heart.
We lose our grandparents, friends, more family, animals, our youth, our innocence, memories and more.
Shadows of their presence remain imprinted on our hearts.
Then on the flip side, the truth is we were never born to be perfect. So why do we constantly struggle for the silver lining illusion of excellence?
Or do we resolve to being content with mediocrity?
Here are 6 Empowering Gifts When You’re Discouraged:
We may never be able to cross off all the boxes on our ‘To-Do’ List, but we have the ability to love and respect where we are.
Gift #1 – Take a day.
Take a break just to stop and appreciate all you manage, all you do and how far you’ve come.
Life is difficult. Life isn’t easy. It’s designed to be a struggle and it will never let up.
Life requires strength and perseverance. And to have made it this far means you have both.
Take life a day at a time.
Gift #2 – Love
You are not meant to exist, you are meant to live. When you learn to love yourself and most important- like yourself, you will find yourself thriving.
No one can change the relationship with yourself, except you.
Recognize how awesome you are. Life is no small feat and you are smack dab in the middle of it. Do what you can to enjoy the journey of life. This begins with love.
Love is organic. It is alive and a constantly developing and growing organism.
Love is a free gift you can gift yourself. No strings attached, just pure, honest acceptance to accompany you on your way.
Gift #3 – Cry
It’s okay. Tears are not weak. In fact, they are a strength.
It’s through the tears we grow stronger and develop new capacity for compassion.
Emotions are power. When things are rough and it’s tough to keep your chin up, feeling sadness is is still better than feeling nothing. We are not here to exist, we are here to live. Sometimes that involves some sadness. This is okay. There is no shame in it.
Gift #4 – Handwriting is Therapy
Take your time, write beautifully instead of hastily. You’ll find yourself engaged in somewhat of a moving meditation.
Not sure what to write?
Try the 7 Steps to Recovering from Rock Bottom.
Gift #5 – List 30 Dreams and Goals
There are 2 rules with this gift – 1) Money is not a factor; 2) Time is not a factor.
Come up with 30 dreams and goals as if you are not limited my money or time.
I’m not going to lie, it’s tough to come up with 30. It’s not a race and you can take your time.
What are 30 things you’d like to do, see or experience in this lifetime?
Once you have your 30 items listed, take your time thinking about each and every one.
Pay attention to your emotional responses.
The items you have the largest reaction to are the ones you want to prioritize.
Put a little star next to them.
Gift #6 – Expect Greatness From Life
Life is short.
When you are sitting in traffic and it feels like forever to reach your destination, it’s an illusion.
That being said, I refuse to give up on life until I have experienced 3 things.
Some I have experienced, others are still on the horizon.
- Reach my full potential.
- Love myself, my life and my family to the greatest ability I possess.
- Write meaningful projects that inspire others.
Regarding my full potential, the only way to reach that is through education. I must participate in a constant pursuit of growth.
Once upon a time, I was very content for mediocrity. I sat each day, happy with a little job, little relationship and little life. Life had different plans for me.
The truth is, I had given up a dream on greatness.
Oprah once said, “If you don’t hear life’s whisper, you get the 2 x 4.”
So wise, because that is exactly what happened to me.
The rug was pulled out from under me and I was forced to reaffirm that I wasn’t born for a wasted life. It it through my growth I will attain these 3 expectations of life.
Have you had the rug pulled out from under you as well? What has your experience been? Do you now possess any new-found wisdom?
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