4 Subliminal Tricks to Find True Love Now and How to Find the One

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Being alone was never easy. However, it was especially difficult to be single during the holidays.  Year in, year out – my family was always pressuring me to find someone.  On the surface, it would appear that I would never find anyone.  I remember all the things people would say to me, trying to be constructive and most the needle of companionship faster for me…

Crappy things people said when I was single:

“Your standards are too high.”

“What are you waiting for?”

“You aren’t getting any younger.”

“You’re running out of time.”

The reality of the situation, is although it was a painful time – pain is information – and it was time well-spent.  I could address the sources of my pain and heal them.  This did several things for me.

 

3 Great Lessons I Learned During My Tough, Lonely Time:

1 – It helped me be a better partner once I was whole.

2 – I learned to enjoy the holidays by myself, so my happiness was not depended on other people.

3 – Spending holidays with my love was very special once I had him.

Despite the lessons and the nay-sayers, there was one fundamental truth I never stopped believing in.  Nothing rings truer than love.  This is how I know it isn’t just mean for one of us… it’s meant for all of us.

If I can have it – so can you.

You don’t need to turn into a total trickster, but a little strategy never hurt.

Today I have a message with you and the 4 ways I immediately improved my love life.

You were meant for love.  There is no question about it.  The only key is trying to learn what to do.  I’ll show you exactly what to do.

My Client Finds Love Right Under Her Nose

I teach my clients how to find love.  Here is one fun story about how one of my great clients found love in plain sight.

My client was beautiful and spirited, yet overwhelmed in life.  She was busy launching her career and juggling her many friends… how could she possibly have time for a relationship?  Yet she still wanted love.

Although she talked about the struggles in other areas of life, the majority of the conversation would always revolve around finding companionship and being in a fulfilling relationship.

The fact she was staying so busy was a defense mechanism.  We worked together to see through the busy parts of her life and she was able to find hope in the brilliance of togetherness.  We worked through the same keys I’ll share with you.  She let go of the fear of rejection and embraced herself for exactly the beautiful spirit she was.  She created space for love and imagined what it would be like to have that love.

Meanwhile, she continued investing in her many good friendships.

Each week, when I asked her what she was celebrating, she always talked about a certain young man.  He was a dear friend and despite her busy and chaotic career, he regularly dropped by to give her dinner and would plan relaxing activities each weekend.

“Tell me about this young man,” I asked.  “He seems like a great guy.”

She responded positively but he wasn’t really what she was looking for.  He wasn’t 100% of what she wanted.

“What, exactly, are you looking for in your relationship?” I asked.

“Someone who will support me in everything – someone I can be myself with and who understands me.”

I asked more questions about her friend and she agreed to give it some thought.

During our next session, she was gushing.  She realized he was exactly what she had been looking for and she had him all along.  He had made a joke about being a couple and she gave him a positive response.  He was blown away and even several months later, when this young lady graduated from coaching with me – they were madly in love and she couldn’t imagine her life without him.

You Were Meant For Love

You were meant for love.  There is no question about it.  The only key is trying to learn what to do.

I believe in strategy.  It’s cool to work hard, but you really need to be working smart too if you want to get anywhere.

Trick #1 – Love You First

You need to take the time to take care of yourself.  The truth is – your ideal partner isn’t looking for someone needy and dependent on them.  They are looking for an evolved partner to enhance their lives.  Become the evolved person.  Once you love yourself – it’s time to work on liking yourself. This can be even more difficult.  However, there is nothing more attractive than the spark of waking up, thrilled by the gift of getting to be you.  Once you appreciate this – your uniqueness, eccentricities and quirks included , everyone else will too.

How can I begin to Love myself?

There are people going through life. I see them. You see them.

Some are so happy, they cannot contain themselves. Others seem almost cursed, nothing works out for them.

On one hand, those who have been successful first had to face the deepest of tragedies.  It is through the difficult times and making the journey out of the puddle that we develop character, leadership and depth.

This was one of the main elements that attracted me to the love of my life.

Depth is one of the most attractive characteristics in a life partner.

4 Steps to Reaching any goal (even Loving yourself):

  1. Set an Intention.
  2. Declare Your Intention As Yours.
  3. Take Action As Your Intuition Guides You Toward Your Goal.
  4. Let It Go and Embrace Life’s Possibilities.

 

Life already knows what you want. If you do too, it creates a recipe for success.

True Love Template

Trick # 2 – Make Room in Your Life for Love

I learned to make room by physically changing my environment.  I cleared out my closet and left some space for my ideal partners things.  I began sleeping on only one side of my bed, leaving space for my ideal partner.  I would bring two glasses of water instead of one – sure to be thoughtful of my ideal partner.  I would even set the table for two when cooking dinner at night.

When he did enter my life, I had already created room for my love.  He had a place I had literally carved out – just for him.

Trick # 3 – Feel What Love Would Feel Like

Listen to songs and watch movies as though you are not alone.  Begin generating the feelings necessary to believe you was not only worthy of love but that someone is meant to reciprocate those feelings.

Trick # 4 – Be Willing to Accept Love

Yes, love can make you vulnerable.  Vulnerability can be scary!

If it has the potential to hurt, why should we even bother?

I remember a question asked of Esther Hicks that was very similar to this.

Why do dogs continue to stick their heads out the car window, even when they get gnats in their eye?”

The answer: Even though there risks involved, the exhilaration of life keeps us living.

Take this knowledge and use it to your greatest benefit.  You were meant for love.

Always remember, you are precious.

In Conclusion…

Before I leave you, I have one additional video for you to watch.

When I left for Europe in March, I promised to have something very special when I returned.

My gift to you was doing Life Coaching videos for 30 days.

I am took questions and answered them. Here is one that applies to this topic from that series:


We are all looking for our other half. Dating isn’t easy. However, it can be fun.

I spent years going on 1,000’s of successful dates. Here I share some of my greatest wisdom with you. I share the 4 steps I use evry time I begin looking for a serious relationship and in fact, “The One.”

Today, I’m blissfully married to an incredible man and partner. I would not be where I am today, in such a happy relationship without having followed these steps.

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9 Incredible Discoveries That Kill Stress Quick

“Namaste,” is a Sanskrit word meaning “all that is good in me, honors all that is good in you.”

Here is a short passage on the subject, derived from my stay in India.  Here, I have borrowed the excerpt from a memoir I finished this year, Finding Yourself in a Suitcase.

“We took off up river, toward the rope bridge.  Many villagers were taking their dip of the day in the Ganges River.  They were pleasant and peaceful. 

          A Saddhu in his orange robes walked toward us along the river.  Saddhu’s were considered dangerous as many were escaped criminals who posed at wise men to maintain their freedom.  They changed their story as well as their names.  We tensed as the thin, unkempt man approached us.  As we approached one another, he raised his head.  Kind eyes met ours.  He greeted us with his hands together in prayer position and bowed.

          “Namaste,” he said.

          “Namaste,” we returned.

          He passed us as peaceful as a holy man could hope to pass…”

The moral of the story…  The discovery to be made in killing stress quick, begins with honoring your greatest asset…  You.

If escaped criminals in India can find peace – so can you.

 

9 Ways to Honor Yourself and Reduce Stress in Your Life

#1 – Basket of Happiness

Best Way to Relax

When I feel exhausted, tired and defeated, there is nothing like the comfort of a hot bath to ease my senses and put the world back in perspective for me.

As a gift last year, I provided to all my loved ones a “Basket of Happiness.”

Within this basket, held the ingredients to my bath.  Today, I will share this secret slice of heaven with you (they just happen to be heaven scents as well).

  • Spearmint-Scented Bath Sea Salt (Promotes purifying aromatherapy and muscle relaxation.)
  • Lavender Bath Oil (Improves mood and decreases tense feelings.)
  • Milk Bath (Enhances silky, moisturized skin.)

Treat yourself to a heaven sent experience… and sleep easy with a smile that will stay with you all night long.

#2 – The 5 Minute Challenge

Here’s what the day looked like:

  • Alarm clock chimed – jumped out of bed – showered – got dressed.
  • Hustled to the car – started and warmed – fueled the car – commuted to work.
  • Worked nonstop until lunch – ate  and returned a call or two – went back to work.
  • Finished work – clocked out – made three stops – ran errands – made plans – went home – executed the plans…

As I got home, settling down for a ‘quick’ meditation- tired, rushed, exhausted- it dawned on me.

Although I’m living my life, I’m missing my life.

I needed to stop, smell the roses…take a moment to appreciate the creation around me.

Stopping to solve the puzzle, I sat down, quiet and uninterrupted.  And as always, I got my answer:

The 5 Minute Challenge

The 5 Minute Challenge is a game designed to improve your quality of life.  It gives you space and I invite you to play too.

After every major task, take  5 minutes to appreciate what is around you.

Be silent, or perhaps listen to a song with your eyes closed, take deep breaths or stretch.

The goal is to create space between the tasks you complete, and to enjoy what you’re living…rather than missing the good stuff.

Here is what my day looked like the day I implemented The 5 Minute Challenge:

  • When the alarm clock chimes – jump out of bed – shower – get dressed … Take 5 minutes.
  • Hustle to the car – start and warm – fuel the car – commute to work … Take 5 minutes.
  • Work until lunch – eat … Take 5 minutes.
  • Return a call … Take 5 minutes.
  • Finish work … Take 5 minutes.
  • Commute home … Take 5 minutes.
  • As I read, meditate, write … Take 5 minutes.
  • Just before bed … Take 5 minutes.

5 minutes isn’t much to ask. That being said, like most, I have an addiction to rushing.  This effort was designed to curtail that impulse and enjoy life more.

Even though it has been difficult to take the time, I urged myself to take the challenge and follow it.

The results in one day were better than I could have predicted. 

Here is a list of my personal results, which occurred even after Day 1 of implementation.

  1. Spent time with some people I didn’t expect, who I care about very much.
  2. Received a bonus from work.
  3. Was inspired for a new book.
  4. Slept better than I have in weeks.

Who knows what the future can hold if I continue to honor my path by utilizing this practice.

The end result was that the built-up stress melted away.  I loved my life, even more than I already did.

If your end result is loving your life more than you already do, isn’t that worth taking The Five Minute Challenge?

As a bonus, if you are among those who are looking for your path, your joy, your happiness…it can shed some light or maybe there are things you don’t like or don’t want to be doing.  You’ll know that too.

Taking 5 minutes will help guide us and reassure us we are on our path, and can bless us by honoring it too.

#3 – Walk in Nature

Even fifteen minutes surrounded by the automatic genius of nature inspires our minds and hearts. We are nature too. We belong to nature and nature belongs to us. By walking in nature, we commune with it. If given the opportunity, nature will teach us secrets of life.

#4 – Organize Cluttered Areas Of You Life

We are visual creatures. To witness disarray produces similar feelings within us. If our belongings are scattered about, lacking a sense of order, there is a natural tendency to pull away from ourselves. This, of course, leads to pulling away from others. When your surroundings are orderly, clean and confident, we automatically feel more invited to participate and create in our own life.

#5 – Belly Breathe

Breathing creates space between moments. It prevents us from living life too quick and at the same time gives us the opportunity to slow down. By belly breathing, you can focus on the action and empty the mind of stress and busy thoughts. If gives you a moment to enjoy the sense of being alive.

#6 – Dance

Movement and flow are very connective energies. While dancing to music, you connect to the sounds and create a shared experience through expression. Dance is emotional, sensual and enlightening. It can even provide healing. Open your heart and the obstacles you are facing as well as the strength to identify the solutions, will be found.

#7 – The 5 Minute Detox That Will Leave You Feeling Like $1,000,000 Bucks

I was 12 years old on a mission trip in Mexico.

For a week we slept on concrete floors, serving in an impoverished Ensenada village.

One night we were asked to volunteer to wash the feet of the members of the congregation.

Filling my bucket, I chose an elderly woman in the front row. I wanted to honor her for her 90 years of life.

I got on my knees and removed her shoes. I took my time, carefully washing each of ehr feet and drying them on a small towel.

As the ceremony was completed, I stood, bowed to her and turned to leave.

The woman grasped my hand and led me to the pew beside her.

I was brought to tears as she got down on her knees and washed my feet in return.

Although I didn’t know about the detox I’m about to share with you at the time, you can honor another person by sharing it with another.

Celebrate You

Instructions for the 5 Minute $1,000,000 Detox:

  1. Fill a basin, bin or bathtub with warm water.
  2. Add a few spoonfuls of Epsom salt and allow the salt to dissolve.
  3. Place your feet into the water.
  4. Soak them for 5 minutes, rubbing occasionally.
  5. Towel off your feet.
  6. Apply lotion to prevent dryness.

Feet can become overwhelmed with soreness, weight and exertion.

Did you know there are over 72,000 nerve endings in your feet?

If you take a moment to honor them, you might find yourself completely renewed.

As I completed my own variation, I felt like $1,000,000 bucks.

This quick little detox will relieve pain, stiffness, and stress while pulling toxins from your body while detoxifying.

#8 – The Wet Noodle

My mind would not settle down.  Not morning, noon or night.  Several times during the night I was waking up, mind and heart racing.

I shared this dilemma with my Mom, who gave me some great advice so powerful, I had to share it.

“When you lay down,” she said.  “Just pretend you are a wet noodle.  Settle into the bed and totally let go.”

Once we were off the phone and I was getting ready for bed, I took her advice.

That night and every night since, I have slept soundly.

I wish you sweet calm rest as well.

#9 – Go on a Pilgrimage

Have recent times given you a long, hard look at rock bottom?

Today, I’m tossing you a life preserver.

When I was at the end of my rope, going through the most difficult times of my life, I retreated to Yosemite National Park for a pilgrimage weekend.

When I resurfaced, I held in my hands the tools I needed to be stronger, smarter and more focused than ever before.

One day at a time, I put one foot in front of the other and made it out of the ditch life had tossed me in.

It was time for me to take responsibility and rebuild something better.

I didn’t stop there.  Ultimately, I completed a 440 mile pilgrimage across Spain and wrote a book about it.

 Namaste and happy soaking…

I wish for your day to be filled with belonging, inspiration, connection and love.

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11 Tricks and a Video to Boost Creativity

Nothing is more frustrating than hitting a block in your creativity.  The page is there, waiting for your handwriting.  It remains empty.

The canvas stares back at you.  Inspiration refuses to visit.  The canvas remains blank.

The screen is open, the program waiting for your book – your program – your course… yet the muse is anywhere but right here.

The key to moving forward to is have a plan. Here are two concepts I created to help me move forward – whether it’s planning my blog or next program or course; writing a new book or novel; or creating a new work of art.

 

Here are 11 Tricks and a Video to boost creativity so you can begin kicking your creativity into gear – starting today.

#1 – The Lightning Strike

There was a choice to make.  Remain comfortable or follow my soul’s suggestion.

It took me moment to decide but once I did, peace and excitement coexisted.

I followed my heart.

Standing in front of the Cathedral, I couldn’t pass it by without taking a moment (one of those 5 Minute Challenges) to appreciate the energy of Spirit surrounding this masterful location.

The structure stood, my vision holding me there – entranced.

Moments passed and I knew my heart would not be satisfied unless I touched the building.

I walked up slow, admiring from a distance; as though trying not to make the church nervous.

Reaching the wall, my head tilted up, I extended my vision up the impressive vertical of the tower.

Reaching my hand forward, strong and able – I touched the concrete.  Spiritual power flowed into me.

The energy encircled me and I swam in Spirit for a while.  An acoustic harmony of spiritual guidance as I explored appreciation for the moment as I lived it.  I received secret messages and wisdom to apply new patterns to my life.

Next time you are struck for a moment to stop – follow your heart and your inspirational lightning strike. 

If Spirit is interested in getting your attention and has something special in mind for you, don’t allow the moment to pass by.

In dealing with writer’s block…

When the page is there, waiting for your handwriting and remaining empty…

When the canvas stares back at you.  Inspiration refuses to visit.  The canvas remains blank.

When the screen is open, the program waiting for your book – your program – your course… yet the muse is anywhere but right here.

The key to moving forward to is have a plan. Here are two concepts I created to help me move forward – whether it’s planning my blog or next program or course; writing a new book or novel; or creating a new work of art.

#2 – Walk in Nature

Even fifteen minutes surrounded by the automatic genius of nature inspires our minds and hearts. We are nature too. We belong to nature and nature belongs to us. By walking in nature, we commune with it. If given the opportunity, nature will teach us secrets of life.

#3 – Organize Cluttered Areas Of You Life

We are visual creatures. To witness disarray produces similar feelings within us. If our belongings are scattered about, lacking a sense of order, there is a natural tendency to pull away from ourselves. This, of course, leads to pulling away from others. When your surroundings are orderly, clean and confident, we automatically feel more invited to participate and create in our own life.

#4 –  Belly Breathe

Breathing creates space between moments. It prevents us from living life too quick and at the same time gives us the opportunity to slow down. By belly breathing, you can focus on the action and empty the mind of stress and busy thoughts. If gives you a moment to enjoy the sense of being alive.

#5 – Dance

Movement and flow are very connective energies. While dancing to music, you connect to the sounds and create a shared experience through expression. Dance is emotional, sensual and enlightening. It can even provide healing. Open your heart and the obstacles you are facing as well as the strength to identify the solutions, will be found.

#6 – Meditate

Sitting still for even five minutes makes a big difference.

Can’t meditate?

Makes sense.  Sometimes the only time I can meditate is after rigorous exercise.  Endorphins help.

You know what else helps when you can’t shut your mind off?

#7 – Go For a Drive

Seriously, playing non-logical, instrumental music and going for a long drive clears the panel and is mentally relaxing yet simultaneously stimulating.

It doesn’t matter if you want to listen to classical, trance, celtic, techno, new age or sound track music.  Any and all of those options are effective.  This is a great way I tap in and get solutions to important questions.

#8 – The Creative Caterpillar

The first creativity booster is a brainstorming method I call the Creative Caterpillar.  It takes a main idea, and breaks down the major ideas as the body.  The finer points can be detailed out through the legs.  I’ve provided both a blank template and a demonstration below:

#9 – Tidbits

The second creativity-booster is a small-step planning tool I use called Tidbits.   Tidbits is a template which you can use to achieve your visions for your life.

There is an important question I get all the time.

“What, exactly, are tidbits?”

Tidbits are mini steps that help you get from where you are to where you want to be.  Small goals, that are realistic, but help you take that baby step forward.

Here I have provided a blank template, as well as another demo for you.

#10 – Find Your Joy

Your joy is the single most powerful area in your life. You can make anything happen so long as you come from a place of joy. 
 
How do you find your joy? Although some consider joy to be an elusive pot of gold at the end of an unfindable rainbow, joy is in the palm of your hand right at this moment.
 
Identify what area of your life makes you feel the best. Circle your top one or two in your minds eye.
Romance…
Health…
Friends…
Family…
Work…
Career…

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#11 – The Meditation Journal

Each morning, take a quiet ten minutes.  Recall what reflections came your way and write them in a Meditation Journal. Some of your ideas will be brilliant. Some might need a little work. Either way,  it will center you to spend those few quiet moments.

In Conclusion…

It is my hope you can put these ideas and templates to good use as you make your way along on your journey.

We are not here to be stuck – we are here to move forward.

I wish for your day to be filled with belonging, inspiration, connection and love.

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